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Aurornis 8 hours ago [-]
> Jim had participated in drug-fueled “founder parties”, group orgies and all other crazy experiences in San Francisco. This naturally led to the breakup with his fiancée and a nervous breakdown.
The Bay Area is a weird place. There are countless companies staffed by smart people doing amazing things. There are also countless people cosplaying as smart people and founders who are going through all of the motions, but producing little value.
In my experience (which is as limited as any other one person's experience) the environments at the companies doing the amazing things are on the boring side. Nobody wants to hear about those because it's uninteresting. So instead all of the public stories are about crazy parties, quick wins, huge exits, and the glamorous stuff.
People go there seeking it out. Some get lucky with some early wins, like Jim from this story. But when the time comes to do work, they flounder and get pushed out, also like Jim. It's a big place, though, and there's always some connection willing to hook you up with another referral if you press hard enough. That's the step where the performative, partying people start getting grouped up with other performative, partying people, and it snowballs from there.
Meanwhile the real companies are off quietly doing boring work and getting things done, pushing the Jims out if they accidentally get hired or acquired into the fold. It's a weird place.
vrosas 8 hours ago [-]
SF is such a weird vibe in general. I've watched a lot of founders/tech bros go to burning man for the first time, completely miss the point of it but adopt an air of superiority for attending. I watched a founder weave in his experience on peyote into a company all hands. They also, for reasons I simply cannot fathom, go out and buy a green Range Rover. And as someone who's been in the ENM space for a long time, SF is the LAST city I'd want to experience it in...
danans 5 hours ago [-]
> They also, for reasons I simply cannot fathom, go out and buy a green Range Rover.
What part is unfathomable, the Range Rover part or the green part?
I ask because Range Rovers are strongly associated being quite well-off everywhere, but maybe there's something with SF and the green paint choice.
lubujackson 4 hours ago [-]
I assume it is like the 70s wood-paneling - signifying some vague commercial sense of ruggedness and nature while completely missing the mark.
Aurornis 8 hours ago [-]
> I've watched a lot of founders/tech bros go to burning man for the first time, completely miss the point of it but adopt an air of superiority for attending.
I can't say I see a lot of green Range Rovers in other cities, but I assure you this one is universal across places and industries.
I have friends who go to Burning Man and don't post anything on their social media or bring it up in conversation because they don't want to be one of those people. Others go once and it becomes 50% of their personality for the next year.
lmeyerov 8 hours ago [-]
Fwiw, without naming names, I helped someone at a hackathon make their first app on something he was passionate about, later found out he had been recently homeless living on an abandoned boat, and now years later, afaict he turned that into a $10m/yr business with ~millions of users
Persistence > Intelligence , and being able to code isn't some sort of superiority thing, it's just one skill of many
Edit: being able to take risks, and doing so, does lead to higher variance outcomes, so that is something I have also come to appreciate and look for in people. It may look reckless, and attracts weirder people almost by definition, but that is what startups are ultimately about, betting you can do better than the regular path!
duxup 4 hours ago [-]
When I decided to code (later in life) I was determined to give it my best shot, not sweat the small stuff, just keep going. Previously I tried to learn but gave up assuming that it just wasn't my thing, but I decided this was my last shot and I was going to make it happen.
Some classmates of mine were (like everyone gets) frustrated at one point and actually complained that they were paired up "with those two". Those classmates thought that the other guy and I knew what we were doing and "just got it". Truth was we just kept our hands on the keyboard, had really not made anymore progress than anyone else in class had ... we just kept typing / trying things.
Years later I would say I'm still not a talented programmer, I just stay positive, help my coworkers, and keep gong until I make it happen, and as far as my employer is concerned that's pretty great.
nihsett 3 hours ago [-]
Being homeless doesn't mean he's not intelligent though. He could have had some really bad luck or mental illness, while otherwise being analytically smart.
But I love the anecdote and agree with your point completely. Thanks for sharing.
Sounds a lot like a rich kid pretending they're not a rich kid.
gyanchawdhary 7 hours ago [-]
true :)
tennisflyi 7 hours ago [-]
> being able to code isn't some sort of superiority thing, it's just one skill of many
Nah, bro. You’re elite level intelligence if you can /s
FinnLobsien 9 hours ago [-]
I think much of this comes down to wanting to be a type of person vs. wanting to do the actual thing.
It’s easy to be consumed by “I’m the wealthy San Francisco founder guy” and doing everything that lifestyle requires, including things that may not be good for you.
Aurornis 8 hours ago [-]
That's a really good way of putting it.
I've been to some weird SF events where you immediately recognize that most people there are in their fake it till you make it stage. Then you realize that many of them aren't interested in the part where you have to do a lot of hard work, they just want to be impressive and charming to a broad network so they can insert themselves into the best opportunities that come up.
Every startup collects a couple of these hires during their growth phase. Some times it can be really hard to separate the charm, charisma, and credentials from ability to get things done. The smart founders will push these people back out, much like this Jim guy got fired from the startup he managed to get into at the right place at the right time. It doesn't happen immediately, though.
koolba 6 hours ago [-]
The open source version of this has existed for decades as well.
There’s the doers that actually enjoy the craft, want to share what they’ve done, and contribute to things they genuinely find intellectually stimulating.
And for each of those true believers there’s many more fly by night wannabes that think it’s some kind of shortcut to social validation.
harimau777 4 hours ago [-]
I think that a lot of that may come from the degree to which "contribute to an open source project" has been the advice for almost any job search problem. If people who are just looking for a job have to contribute to open source, then there's to be a lot of people who aren't passionate but have to do it.
FinnLobsien 4 hours ago [-]
I guess this is a general problem where things that show you take initiative get converted into “thing to put on your resume”, and if that’s the primary motivation, you’ll do the bare minimum to check the box to put it on your resume.
Same thing happens to school extracurriculars.
Carrok 9 hours ago [-]
Bit of an aside but I found it somewhat amusing that one example the author uses of Jim’s financial recklessness was getting into home brewing.
Home brewing is one of the cheaper hobbies available (though like all hobbies you can spend as much as you want). The only real requirements are a bucket and a pot.
yesimahuman 8 hours ago [-]
Same with a $10k tree slicer, when the actually expensive alternatives that really get people in trouble are day trading, real estate, car collecting, divorce, and starting new businesses that fail.
JuniperMesos 5 hours ago [-]
Bay area housing costs are so expensive that a $10k fancy wooden table starts to look like a reasonably-priced piece of furniture. The expensive thing is the housing square footage to put the table in.
sneak 7 hours ago [-]
I think he meant a live edge wooden table, not a machine to slice trees.
storywatch 9 hours ago [-]
Now general aviation on the other hand..
nunez 8 hours ago [-]
A boat that flies lol
storywatch 6 hours ago [-]
Worse, at least with boats most of them are made in this century.
codemog 9 hours ago [-]
Same with the cat and the dog.
nunez 8 hours ago [-]
It's cheap until you think "we should start a brewery!" Then it becomes wildly, absurdly expensive.
The hobby itself can get costly though. So much equipment to buy. And space.
arbuge 7 hours ago [-]
> He lost focus and became reckless. He bought some fancy tree slice table for 10k bucks, got into brewing beer, got a dog, a cat, and overall, went completely over himself financially.
Well, he also mentions getting a dog and a cat in that context. Recklessness is relative I guess.
The cat would certainly agree though I suppose, when it sees that dog walking in the door...
MeetingsBrowser 6 hours ago [-]
I think it’s to show that he lost the laser focused drive to succeed.
Before he was willing to make big sacrifices to “make it”.
And on the first step of the ladder to success he started taking on other responsibilities for fun.
mohamedkoubaa 8 hours ago [-]
Home brewing is one of those hobbies that are only expensive if you poast hard enough
fnord77 7 hours ago [-]
Not if you have a contract brewery make your "creations"
schrodinger 9 hours ago [-]
How much more likely does becoming a home brewer make you to develop alcoholism, especially for someone who sounds a bit predisposed like Jim?
jitl 8 hours ago [-]
it’s infinitely easier to become an alcoholic by buying alcohol at a grocery store. brewing is pretty much the least direct most delayed gratification way to get drunk. i guess it can be pretty cheap if you optimize for that but it sounds like jim made enough money and high flying friends it’s unlikely to be major factor.
fragmede 8 hours ago [-]
Though, after you've home brewed the beer, you've now got potentially gallons of beer in a giant pot that you have to bottle yourself. Or you could be lazy and just drink it yourself. True, you could just go down to the store and grab a 30-rack of mass produced beer if you wanted to be an alcoholic, but having a vat of beer in your kitchen that isn't going to drink itself and is gonna go bad if you don't, is a different kind of peer pressure.
ip26 7 hours ago [-]
If it's just sitting there in your kitchen beckoning you, I think that's called beer pressure?
Carrok 8 hours ago [-]
A standard home brewing batch is 5 gallons. Or 40 pints.
While it is a crazy world and I don’t want to say no one has ever done what you described, it would be an outlier to say the least.
Home brewed beer is generally bottled or put into a keg and tapped.
(Almost) no one is just drinking warm uncarbonated beer from the fermenter.
Arainach 7 hours ago [-]
Kegerators are easy and quite affordable to build.
I absolutely have friends who stopped home brewing because they realized that having a tap of readily available beer in their house wasn't a good idea.
s1artibartfast 8 hours ago [-]
Even if someone did it wouldn't be the worst thing. That's a pint a day for a bit more than a month.
The median Drinker / non teetotaler consumes about 0.5 drinks per day.
People with severe alcohol use disorder often consume 10 to 20 drink equivalents a day, most commonly cheap hard liquor.
Basically no alcoholic is going to be brewing a keg every couple days for self consumption.
sscaryterry 7 hours ago [-]
Hard work man.
phrygian 8 hours ago [-]
beer pressure you meant?
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apsurd 8 hours ago [-]
You must not drink or like beer. Brewing something until it ferments into alcohol is the most basic thing ever. There is the very simple problem of taste that is the issue.
daishi55 9 hours ago [-]
I don’t trust anyone who has the general, abstract goal of being a “founder”. If there’s no great idea to go with it, it just seems like vanity. And sure it does work out really well anyway sometimes, but it’s just something I can’t get behind aesthetically.
dilyevsky 8 hours ago [-]
I met a number of really successful founders who came in just wanting to build a business and found a niche later (sometimes waaay later). I suspect majority of founders with “great ideas” discovered them after the company was started and the great idea they started with wasn’t actually that good
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Johanx64 8 hours ago [-]
> I don’t trust anyone who has the general, abstract goal of being a “founder”.
The goal isn't abstract - read it as - goal of "not being a wage-slave" and have a shot at being more. It's an ambition type of thing.
daishi55 7 hours ago [-]
To what end though? If you want financial freedom, and you’re smart, you’re likely to be much better off just working in big tech vs trying and almost certainly failing to successfully found a company.
Of course some people win the lottery, but playing the lottery isn’t a sound strategy for a good life.
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iririririr 8 hours ago [-]
that's 99.9 of them. the ones with the strong feelings towards ideas most of the time is already post-idea-du-jour narrative
mattbillenstein 8 hours ago [-]
Founder culture definitely has fraternity vibes - people with no other discernable talent other than being above average looking and having connections with other similar people end up in positions they have no real idea how to do.
In other words, there are a lot of people "playing startup" in the valley - some of the VC money flows too easily and there is always going to be an ecosystem of people to try to put it to work.
rustfreeforme 7 hours ago [-]
Wish I could lay hands on some of that money they are pissing away out in California.
lostlogin 46 minutes ago [-]
In a gold rush, sell spades.
But how do you apply that to start up San Francisco.
Most people start businesses for tax reasons, and to mitigate financial risks.
People dumping discounted equity to hyper-scale on debt is not a business, but just another IPO over-valuation scheme. =3
dominotw 6 hours ago [-]
main personality trait i want to my kids to have is being a confident extrovert that loves ppl and ppl love. Also make sure to marry for looks if you are not that great in that department.
Nothing else even comes to close to these attributes in having a comfortable sucessful life. introverts and cynics get crushed.
RivieraKid 8 hours ago [-]
It's really hard for me to understand that people who have the chance to achieve basic financial independence (say $1M net worth) don't take that chance and make sure to stay financially independent forever.
If you do that, you're almost guaranteed to stay in the top 2% globally for the rest of your life. You've made it in life, at least financially.
The approach of not taking advantage of the lucky and privileged situation exposes you to a huge risk that your NW will go down to zero and you never get a second chance.
mordechai9000 8 hours ago [-]
I think $1M net worth in the US these days is a nice little nest egg, but not anywhere near financial independence. Unless your needs are simple, you can relocate somewhere to live very cheaply, and you don't have any dependents.
frmersdog 6 hours ago [-]
People who don't take $1M net worth and use it to secure their simple needs somewhere that they can live cheaply (providing attention rather than financial capital to their dependents) are ironically the reason why $1M net worth isn't anywhere near financial independence. Such people provide an outsize contribution to the bidding-up of costs, because instead of thinking, "This is probably it, I better be careful," they're pushing for the next rung on the ladder and willing to "invest" at high prices, with the expectation of a return.
RivieraKid 6 hours ago [-]
I meant basic financial independence. It gives you the option to live like someone who has the median wage forever, but without having to work. If you work, it's a bonus on top of the $40k you receive annually.
Whatever happens, perhaps AI replacing all cognitive work, you know you'll be fine. Maybe not able to live lavishly, but much better than needing to have a job you hate in order to survive.
You've hit the escape velocity. Worst case scenario (I'm simplifying) is that your NW stagnates, best case scenario is that your NW will continue to grow quickly. That's much better than the worst case scenario being that your unemployed with a zero NW.
sfRattan 7 hours ago [-]
> Unless your needs are simple, you can relocate somewhere to live very cheaply, and you don't have any dependents.
As a human, your needs are simple[1]. With a $1M net worth, you can relocate somewhere to live very cheaply. And your dependents can live in that same place, also cheaply.
All you need to do is show the Joneses the door out of your mind and never let them back in, nor look toward their lives in envy.
[1]: Healthcare being a notable potential exception, depending on the individual.
ip26 7 hours ago [-]
If you have dependents that are children, I feel there is a moral consideration. If you have earned $1M and then take the family to live who-knows-where slowly drawing on that $1M.. will your children be able to replicate your success? Will they be able to earn their own $1M? Or will leading this new life significantly impair their prospects?
To me this is the most critical problem with the "move somewhere crazy cheap" plan. I feel a parent owes their children at least somewhat similar opportunities as they themselves had. If you got to work as "high flying white collar tech worker", but the only option your children have is "subsistence fisherman", you have wronged them.
grosswait 2 hours ago [-]
I think there is room for arguing children raised in the high flying city have been robbed of something as well. Can’t have it all and one is not objectively better than the other if you look at the full picture.
ip26 2 hours ago [-]
Certainly room for such discussion. However if the parent waits to first save a large sum before moving there (instead of moving there straight out of high school), their revealed preferences suggest even they do not feel the tiny village is great for young people.
bumblehean 6 hours ago [-]
I think there's a large middle ground between relocating somewhere undesirable (or to a developing country) just to stretch your money as far possible vs "keeping up with the Joneses".
Even if your goal is financial independence, it's reasonable to not drastically decrease your existing standard of living just so you can retire _now_.
treis 7 hours ago [-]
Interest would put you around median household income.
fouc 8 hours ago [-]
$1M invested in a reasonably diversified portfolio gets you about $3,000/mo lifetime at ~3.5% safe withdrawal rate. That might be quite restrictive in the more expensive cities.
nunez 8 hours ago [-]
Some people can't get enough of yachts and other really expensive things
polishdude20 8 hours ago [-]
I don't think these people NW ever goes down to zero.
make3 8 hours ago [-]
they often go into the minuses I'm sure, spending culture in the US is bananas
saucymew 8 hours ago [-]
Silicon Valley bats for 0-to-1 startups. If you swap "Revenue" for "Risk," that is culturally the same.
People who don't have a "1" full-risk-on mode by default self-select themselves out of this game.
A toy model game is poker. If opponents know you'll never call an all-in/go all-in, they will always outplay you on the river.
And so, let the market pump funny numbers, and matriculate the lucky survivors.
eastbound 8 hours ago [-]
> don't take that chance and make sure to stay financially independent forever.
What means do you see? Buy some S&P500 ETF and live off the interest rate? That seams easy but without investing in AI, you’re at risk of AI making the existing economy irrelevant, it’s the same as having all investments in local craftsmanship in 1700 and the steam machine happens, except much faster.
And move to [insert home country]? (What if I want to keep my friends)
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albumen 7 hours ago [-]
But the S&P500 is ~half AI anyway! At least by market cap.
What’s your idea of investing in AI?
est31 7 hours ago [-]
Is it the AI companies though that will capture the value that AI creates, or will it be the still-private startups, or new to-be-founded startups altogether?
Startups are taking longer and longer to reach public markets, so more and more value creation requires you to be a family office, angel, or hedge fund.
la64710 4 minutes ago [-]
In the span of just a few years, he went from nobody to a tech founder
- would this have been possible if Jim was not charismatic like the way the author described including being white, tall and being part of that fraternity.
egonschiele 8 hours ago [-]
Real bummer of a story.
> He approached me because he was really into startups and wanted to become a tech entrepreneur, and make the big bucks
It's a shame that so much of tech culture has become about money. Money was always a part of it, but living in the Bay in 2010, there was more of a focus on building things. But once people started getting rich, especially off bitcoin, it brought in a whole host of people whose primary passion seemed to be money. We moved out in 2018. Still bums me out, SF was my favorite city, and I hoped to live there for a long time, but the values weren't my values anymore.
Aurornis 8 hours ago [-]
> Money was always a part of it, but living in the Bay in 2010, there was more of a focus on building things. But once people started getting rich, especially off bitcoin, it brought in a whole host of people whose primary passion seemed to be money.
This is funny to read because I remember hearing someone complain about the exact same thing in the Bay Area, but their dates were shifted by about 10 years before yours.
I think it's kind of like Burning Man, where everyone's favorite experience was their early days when they were young. As you get older, you complain it's gone downhill and the new generation is going for all the wrong reasons.
nilkn 8 hours ago [-]
I find people's view is based on how much they're personally "winning" financially. If they're making money, then daily life seems more about building. If they're not making money, then the oppressive cost of living makes money seem all-important in the culture (which, in fact, it is and has been for generations).
SF and the Bay Area are constantly shuffling through and recombining ideas. What generated money relatively easily in 2010 would've started becoming low value in 2018, rapidly approaching an asymptote of relative uselessness today. 2018 is about the point where you needed to be pivoting to AI if you really wanted to remain part of the city's "upper class", where money feels like it doesn't matter because it's abundant and automatic. 2010 was the era of mobile apps.
bencarmin 8 hours ago [-]
I think it is interesting how now, a lot of the selling to individuals regarding AI is the ability to do what was popular in 2010 (building apps, websites, games) is easy now due to AI. I know so many people who have made workout apps, CRMs, planners, etc. that are baffled by why their work isn't picking up traction (keep in mind, we aren't in SV).
Makes me wonder how long we have before, "create your own ChatGPT" becomes the next big thing and people wonder why their "AI Labs" aren't making as much as the big boys.
est31 7 hours ago [-]
You can still get traction for your workout apps, CRMs etc with the right market research (you need to find a niche) and the right marketing.
There are gazillions of candy crush remakes, but Royal Match, launched in 2021, still made it to the top in revenue. It was not thanks to some existing monopolist pushing it, but thanks to a) ginormous marketing budget and b) relentless execution and experience of making mobile games before, i.e. you know what works, what doesn't, how to extract maximum amount of revenue, etc.
> It was not thanks to some existing monopolist pushing it, but thanks to a) ginormous marketing budget and b) relentless execution and experience of making mobile games before
Er... so you don't need to be a monopolist, just have a massive amount of existing capital and deep understanding of the field?
MichaelZuo 7 hours ago [-]
Many people seemingly have trouble grasping that baselines can shift.
And then they get into mental contortions as to why getting 2x or 3x better in an absolute sense doesn’t budge the needle much.
antihipocrat 7 hours ago [-]
An LLM can build novel things if guided by a human with a novel idea.
The issue is that simple and novel can also be copied easily (anyone can just point an LLM at the target and ask it to build a local personal version). The days of making money from this class of app are over.
Novel and very complex ideas will still make money, but outside of gaming are usually niche markets.
Novel and moderately complex apps will have to build their own moats to prevent copying - heavy server side rendering, server logic processing, and an idea that can't be re-implemented on simple CRUD architecture.
jjmarr 7 hours ago [-]
> Makes me wonder how long we have before, "create your own ChatGPT" becomes the next big thing and people wonder why their "AI Labs" aren't making as much as the big boys.
We're already there. It seems like every intern I see has built a custom chatbot with a RAG pipeline integrated into an internal application.
And every legacy SaaS is paying millions in consulting to add the same to their app.
t_serpico 8 hours ago [-]
I think the focus on building things is the wrong framing - that seems to be still there. But this AI wave is centered around automation, which has a different flavor to the previous cycles (1970-2010), which very much felt much more positive sum and less hyper capitalistic.
losteric 7 hours ago [-]
> This is funny to read because I remember hearing someone complain about the exact same thing in the Bay Area, but their dates were shifted by about 10 years before yours.
Another perspective is just that SF's culture has been declining for decades. As someone born in SF, I'd agree.
themanmaran 8 hours ago [-]
I've just been reading The Making of Prince of Persia (highly recommend [1]) and it's amazing how the journal feels exactly like today's startup scene. But everything is dated 1989.
Another theory is that things has gotten worse as more and more petite bourgeois prospects for class travel lose faith in the invisible hand and turn to pure grift.
And when it comes to culture as festivals they are very much victims of getting hallowed out and sucked dry.
paulddraper 8 hours ago [-]
Yeah, I was reading along but the date 2010 surprised me.
In reality, you could probably put any date in there and it would work.
brandall10 7 hours ago [-]
And for me 10 years before that - not in the bay area but in my CS program at UCSD. Going into the junior year in '96 there was a clear inflection point, we suddenly had a flood of finance bro types all over the CS lab as the dot com bubble was quickly inflating.
mc32 7 hours ago [-]
I think there was a time when people who generally went for MBAs started going into CS and other majors angling to get into a tech company. There was also a coincidental proliferation of tech “bootcamps.” I think that’s when things tilted away from technology as a way to improve things to a vehicle to greater riches.
landedgentry 7 hours ago [-]
I think the 2008 recession and its aftermath redirected many "Wall Street people" to Silicon Valley.
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Taniwha 8 hours ago [-]
I think the real watershed wan't bitcoin, it was the internet bubble, before that the rule of thumb was you couldn't go public without 5 consecutive quarters of profit - you really had to build something real - suddenly you could do it on hype alone and the focus turned to that
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camillomiller 8 hours ago [-]
It’s always been a travesty, it was just harder to see through it because back then morals hadn’t been completely dismantled by the last 15 years of whatever the US has become
sneak 7 hours ago [-]
A bummer? Jim, even whilst failing, is living a life better than 99.999% of humans that have ever lived, and surely better than 99% of humans alive today. He has access to SOTA medical care, pharmaceuticals, ideal human weather, healthy and nutritious food on demand at the push of a button, etc.
Let’s keep it in perspective.
s0rce 8 hours ago [-]
As long as there is money people will come just for that. That's where we got tech bros, like finance bros, instead of just a bunch of nerds making cool stuff.
carlosjobim 8 hours ago [-]
Tech startup is one of the few remaining ways still allowed for plebs to build wealth unless they're born into it, because digital stuff isn't influenced by real estate feudalism.
toomuchtodo 8 hours ago [-]
Also why generative AI scares people who want to build wealth with tech, as it removes a vehicle to create moats to build wealth and concentrates existing wealth that can avoid having to hire labor. At least the illusion of meritocracy and skill (versus connection and luck) leading to wealth is evaporating.
hahahaa 9 hours ago [-]
Interesting. I am sure there are Jims outside of startup world too. There will be finance Jims and entertainment Jims.
Is having a couple of pets and a ridiculous table lifestyle creep. Maybe. I think of lifestyle creep more in terms of you are not saving any money at all.
I think that comment is more telling of what is expected of founders and engineers. At least from authors point of view.
No life allowed. Definitely don't reproduce. You work, and work so you can work more.
xmprt 8 hours ago [-]
There's more truth to the "Forbes 30 Under 30 to prison pipeline" than people give it credit.
make3 8 hours ago [-]
this is just an empirical fact
yesimahuman 8 hours ago [-]
I mostly stayed clear of the SV world while building and exiting my startup, but people like this came and went through my network constantly. They were always easy to pick out based on how much they glorified certain SV personalities and were desperate for their approval.
> The establishment scions pouring into tech take on the trappings of subversion, while remaining fundamentally conformist. Meanwhile, rampant success inevitably causes the former tech counterculture to morph into posturing “Prada revolutionaries,”
Unfortunately the article ends on praising crypto and surveillance, so this has been going on for a while
goatlover 7 hours ago [-]
Even better who you know, then you can become wealthy and get away with almost anything, as Epstein realized when he said there are out lots of hard working people who never become rich.
ashu1461 5 hours ago [-]
I feel the crux is that there is no shortcut to success, any shortcut which is taken has to be compensated at a later part of your career. Example if you got funding without having product market fit, then you would have to justify that funding at one point on another.
One example of this is the current AI companies. Irrespective of how much marketing / hype that exists today, the long term question remains the same. Can they build a sustainable business ?
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binsquare 7 hours ago [-]
Condolences, I've also met a few Jim's in Chicago and some even in big tech once money, privilege came.
some opportunities allow people reveal parts of themselves or things they always wanted
guywithahat 9 hours ago [-]
This gets to a point my dad always made when I was neck deep in startups; so many of them felt unserious. People go to the most expensive west coast city, raise money, and then move to the next most expensive east coast city and open a second office. A lot of founders are clearly inexperienced, and to defend their inexperience, hire under experienced teams. It all sort of gets back to the root of the issue, which is that the hardest part is never the engineering, it’s networking and finding product market fit. Finding people who actually get up and do meaningful things is hard, and so Jim’s sneak in under the guise of being an outsider who understands a market and can make things happen.
moralestapia 8 hours ago [-]
>and to defend their inexperience, hire under experienced teams
It's also a bit of "I like you because you're like me" thing plus some "it's useful to me that you're like that".
I've seen plenty of startups where the CEO/CTO has been trained to fit under one specific stereotype (common ones these days are: the asian twink, the athlete, the nootropics guy, etc.), and then lots of their friends/hires happen to be of the same or adjacent/compatible stereotypes.
andsoitis 7 hours ago [-]
That story has more holes in it than Swiss cheese.
TrackerFF 7 hours ago [-]
I always found it interesting how different things are in US (well, more so startup hotspots) and Europe. In the US you're simply given more chances if you have the right personality and superficial elements.
In so many European countries, unless you happen to have bootstrapped your way into success, you'll be written off as a bozo if you don't have all the correct credentials.
Someone like Jim (read: No formal relevant education, no industry experience, only hopes and dreams) would in the very, very, VERY best case get a €100k funding - and that is only if they had other more attractive looking co-founders with them.
I mean, it is something everyone knows - but the sheer risk averseness you often see here in Europe is really something.
EA-3167 7 hours ago [-]
The reality behind that is that the US is much much richer than any single European entity, and that the US is a country founded by Europeans (note that I'm talking about the country, not claiming Europeans are the first to arrive in North America) who felt they'd run out of opportunities back home. Hundreds of years of European migration to the US suggests that social stratification and lack of opportunities outside of the old boy's network remains a problem.
jacobgold 8 hours ago [-]
There are different kinds of founders in Silicon Valley now. Some are more like founders from the previous generation, like Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. Others are more like Elizabeth Holmes and Adam Neumann.
There are lots of earnest, sincere, and interesting founders. There are also lots who probably would've been happier on Wall Street.
singingtoday 9 hours ago [-]
I've met a few people like that, through what appears to be pure determination, they force success to give up what it has. Very impressive.
codemog 8 hours ago [-]
Complete bollocks people like PG say before anointing grifters with undeserved power. Has happened all throughout history.
mikeaskew4 8 hours ago [-]
“Who wants to make some real, positive impact on humanity,” says no one ever, anymore…
bicx 9 hours ago [-]
You really have to believe your own narrative to do well as a startup founder, even when evidence is initially scant. This likely also has a tendency to slide into self-delusion.
senorcrab 8 hours ago [-]
Ultimately this comes down VCs who fund people like this. Can we really believe the established funds look for "independent thinkers" anymore?
bloodyplonker22 7 hours ago [-]
Most VCs have a relatively short timeline to deploy money by or they will be berated by investors for sitting on it. Therein lies the problem.
JumpCrisscross 9 hours ago [-]
“presumably under the influence of some strong chemicals”
This is a bigger problem in Silicon Valley right now than anyone seems ready to acknowledge.
hahahaa 9 hours ago [-]
I see the "we work 12 hrs a day 6 days a week" as a euphemism for "we take amphetamines".
khazhoux 9 hours ago [-]
Whenever you hear someone say they work 80- (or 100!) hour weeks, you should understand what they mean is they had a few crunch weeks once.
andy99 9 hours ago [-]
Or the only thing they do in life is come to the office and then mix life with work so effectively it’s a combination of hanging out with friends, eating free food, and working, but it all goes into the work bucket when claims are made about how much they work.
Nothing wrong with that per se, I basically did that in grad school. It’s completely different than actually grinding 100 hours a week though. Also tough to be a part of if you have a life or family outside work.
pipes 8 hours ago [-]
Yep, that's what I thought too. I contrast it with an accident and emergency consultant I know in the UK. He actually is grinding 70 hours a week and not compensated for it. He works long hours because there aren't enough staff to cover the reality of what's needed.
JumpCrisscross 4 hours ago [-]
I do this several times a year. It’s a lot of fun. You basically camp with colleagues and get a lot of collaborative work done. Then you detach and do your deep thinking. The problem is top performers eventually gain an ego and stop attending, and then it just turns into pathetic signaling.
achandra03 9 hours ago [-]
A lot of people also equate "face time in the office" to "real work getting done". Especially prevalent in finance circles.
nunez 8 hours ago [-]
ibb folks definitely work this much every week. big law too. medicine, sometimes.
cmuguythrow 9 hours ago [-]
We will look back at the easy access to amphetamines - especially for children - in a similar light to the opioid epidemic. To be fair, I think they are less harmful than many opiates, but they are still serious drugs and usage has ~doubled in the last 10 years [1]. Anecdotally, it feels so common/casual for people - adults and schoolchildren - to be taking adderall, vyvanse, concerta, etc. Over 20 million subscriptions in the US [1] means thats something like 5-10% of the adult population.
Will we? Opiates leading to a homeless population not being productive, just looking to get high and be high all day and not do anything other than be a zombie, hits different compared to stimulants that makes people work harder and clean things.
outside1234 8 hours ago [-]
Elon
zer00eyz 8 hours ago [-]
> Silicon Valley right now
Go back to early 2000's post dot com bubble.
The whole of the bay ran on Adderall and Ambien + what ever else one could get their hands on. It was so pervasive that even a decade later you could find Adderall references in Bay Area hip hop.
Almost 30 years on, and this still has not really changed.
luciana1u 7 hours ago [-]
the goal was to disrupt industries, and the industries turned out to be the founders
asveikau 8 hours ago [-]
Probably not right to diagnose an allegory, but does it sound to anyone else like Jim might have bipolar disorder?
blobbers 9 hours ago [-]
woah woah... a bartender becomes the head of engineering at a high flying start up? This isn't the .com. Did the bartender also go to MIT?
Drug fueled founder parties? Orgies? I've clearly been doing silicon valley wrong. Or right, depending on your perspective... but not this? I've seen board game fueled parties where maybe one or two people do drugs, but it remains very nerdy? And no sex parties. Mostly sausage parties?
... so yeah. Do people really know Jims? Because I just read posts about them.
Animats 8 hours ago [-]
I've met the type. But usually, they're on the marketing side, not the ones who develop something. I knew one who blew through 8 figures and ended up an alcoholic, then dead.
The startup market rewards first to market and first to scale. This creates a game of "chicken", where the competitors spend like crazy trying to achieve a near monopoly. That's why some of the fake-it-til-you-make-it crowd gets ahead.
But most of them crash. The historical success rate for VC-funded startups is only about 1 in 10.
stevenwoo 8 hours ago [-]
Re: sausage party - Based on the salary of these guys, if they wanted they could easily afford nightly visits at something like the now closed strip club, the Mitchell Brothers theater in San Francisco. I went for a bachelor party in early 2000s, and every dancer who got close enough to have a conversation with you propositioned you with sex acts for a price in a private room. I worked at a startup in Houston in the early 1990s and the founder went to strip clubs it seemed every time he was in town, he took the whole company one time (it was less than 20 of us) and that strip club seemed to work on a similar if less brazen vibe. The other startups I’ve worked for did not have strip club trips. :)
mosura 8 hours ago [-]
The whole SV “let’s go to burning man” crowd has always had a very active sex aspect to it. This is one of the things neo puritan pichai era Google struggles to deal with about its past.
com2kid 9 hours ago [-]
Pretty sure my choosing to work for companies ran by stable sane people is responsible for the complete lack of drug fueled orgy invites on my calendar.
Actually the one drugs + stripper party I was invited to was so damn sad and pathetic I left after a few minutes. A bunch of geeks who got rich, using money to do an impersonation of the crazy lifestyle reality TV taught them they were supposed to be having.
I left the party and went back to playing board games in another wing of the hotel.
sscaryterry 8 hours ago [-]
What type of drugs? Asking for a friend.
fancyswimtime 8 hours ago [-]
C&K
bladeacidic 8 hours ago [-]
For sex parties, GHB is where it's at. It's like molly but sexier.
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smuhakg 9 hours ago [-]
> And no sex parties. Mostly sausage parties?
Clearly you weren't cool enough to get into the drug-fuelled OpenAI gay sex orgies.
More prison gay than anything else. I'd go down on a man for a million dollar OpenAI offer even though I'm into women. I don't think commenters here realize how desperate people can become for money.
JumpCrisscross 7 hours ago [-]
Is LSD a sex drug? (I haven't tried it yet. But I thought it was more of a go-to-a-concert or take-a-hike vibe.)
Aurornis 8 hours ago [-]
Weird article. The original Tweet is all about the "hacker house scene" and it refers to some people she met who went on to work for OpenAI.
The journalist is trying hard to tie it all back to OpenAI, but the original Tweet only mentions OpenAI as an eventual destination for some of the people involved in what she witnessed.
The shared "hacker house" scene in SF is really weird, though. Especially the more you get into EA/rationalist circles. There were groups that were basically cults emerging out of some of them.
lostlogin 27 minutes ago [-]
> The shared "hacker house" scene in SF is really weird, though.
The startup incubator in Silicon Valley, the tv series, was good comedy.
tikhonj 8 hours ago [-]
> A few months post-acquisition, he got fired for an allegedly silly reason, but my intuition is that he was coasting hard and couldn’t focus at all because of home office and lifestyle creep.
This seems like a pretty dubious conclusion to make from the outside. There are a lot of reasons somebody would get fired after an acquisition. Hell, even if he was coasting, an acquisition followed by a rapid change in environment and culture can cause somebody to lose motivation for a wide range of reasons. Blaming this on "lifetstyle creep" is rather premature and, frankly, pretty judgemental or moralistic.
This is downstream of a pretty frustrating belief I've seen repeatedly in the tech industry: that whether a person is "motivated" or "hard working" is some kind of inherent quasi-moral characteristic of the person, rather than something substantially affected by environment. But hey, it's much easier to blame individuals and lean on the perf review process than it is to change organizational culture or leadership!
alexashka 7 hours ago [-]
There's wage slave layer, nepo baby layer and the in-between.
Author has discovered that his 'working hard' to be at the bottom of the in-between layer pales in comparison to the invites others receive for simply showing up.
That's how it goes.
The real bitch is when you get to spend some time with the hot folks or the nepo babies and realize there's no substance - all they have is a mastery of surface level pleasantries and an incredibly thin skin.
camillomiller 8 hours ago [-]
Airbnb’s CEO, for example, is a Jim who got lucky
make3 8 hours ago [-]
Snapchat's famously also is one
arionhardison 8 hours ago [-]
His family is also insanely rich and helped him w/ the IP contracts.
John W. Spiegel: A prominent business litigation and securities lawyer who graduated from Yale University and worked as a partner at the law firm Munger, Tolles & Olson.
The Bay Area is a weird place. There are countless companies staffed by smart people doing amazing things. There are also countless people cosplaying as smart people and founders who are going through all of the motions, but producing little value.
In my experience (which is as limited as any other one person's experience) the environments at the companies doing the amazing things are on the boring side. Nobody wants to hear about those because it's uninteresting. So instead all of the public stories are about crazy parties, quick wins, huge exits, and the glamorous stuff.
People go there seeking it out. Some get lucky with some early wins, like Jim from this story. But when the time comes to do work, they flounder and get pushed out, also like Jim. It's a big place, though, and there's always some connection willing to hook you up with another referral if you press hard enough. That's the step where the performative, partying people start getting grouped up with other performative, partying people, and it snowballs from there.
Meanwhile the real companies are off quietly doing boring work and getting things done, pushing the Jims out if they accidentally get hired or acquired into the fold. It's a weird place.
What part is unfathomable, the Range Rover part or the green part?
I ask because Range Rovers are strongly associated being quite well-off everywhere, but maybe there's something with SF and the green paint choice.
I can't say I see a lot of green Range Rovers in other cities, but I assure you this one is universal across places and industries.
I have friends who go to Burning Man and don't post anything on their social media or bring it up in conversation because they don't want to be one of those people. Others go once and it becomes 50% of their personality for the next year.
Persistence > Intelligence , and being able to code isn't some sort of superiority thing, it's just one skill of many
Edit: being able to take risks, and doing so, does lead to higher variance outcomes, so that is something I have also come to appreciate and look for in people. It may look reckless, and attracts weirder people almost by definition, but that is what startups are ultimately about, betting you can do better than the regular path!
Some classmates of mine were (like everyone gets) frustrated at one point and actually complained that they were paired up "with those two". Those classmates thought that the other guy and I knew what we were doing and "just got it". Truth was we just kept our hands on the keyboard, had really not made anymore progress than anyone else in class had ... we just kept typing / trying things.
Years later I would say I'm still not a talented programmer, I just stay positive, help my coworkers, and keep gong until I make it happen, and as far as my employer is concerned that's pretty great.
But I love the anecdote and agree with your point completely. Thanks for sharing.
Nah, bro. You’re elite level intelligence if you can /s
It’s easy to be consumed by “I’m the wealthy San Francisco founder guy” and doing everything that lifestyle requires, including things that may not be good for you.
I've been to some weird SF events where you immediately recognize that most people there are in their fake it till you make it stage. Then you realize that many of them aren't interested in the part where you have to do a lot of hard work, they just want to be impressive and charming to a broad network so they can insert themselves into the best opportunities that come up.
Every startup collects a couple of these hires during their growth phase. Some times it can be really hard to separate the charm, charisma, and credentials from ability to get things done. The smart founders will push these people back out, much like this Jim guy got fired from the startup he managed to get into at the right place at the right time. It doesn't happen immediately, though.
There’s the doers that actually enjoy the craft, want to share what they’ve done, and contribute to things they genuinely find intellectually stimulating.
And for each of those true believers there’s many more fly by night wannabes that think it’s some kind of shortcut to social validation.
Same thing happens to school extracurriculars.
Home brewing is one of the cheaper hobbies available (though like all hobbies you can spend as much as you want). The only real requirements are a bucket and a pot.
The hobby itself can get costly though. So much equipment to buy. And space.
Well, he also mentions getting a dog and a cat in that context. Recklessness is relative I guess.
The cat would certainly agree though I suppose, when it sees that dog walking in the door...
Before he was willing to make big sacrifices to “make it”.
And on the first step of the ladder to success he started taking on other responsibilities for fun.
While it is a crazy world and I don’t want to say no one has ever done what you described, it would be an outlier to say the least.
Home brewed beer is generally bottled or put into a keg and tapped.
(Almost) no one is just drinking warm uncarbonated beer from the fermenter.
I absolutely have friends who stopped home brewing because they realized that having a tap of readily available beer in their house wasn't a good idea.
The median Drinker / non teetotaler consumes about 0.5 drinks per day.
People with severe alcohol use disorder often consume 10 to 20 drink equivalents a day, most commonly cheap hard liquor.
Basically no alcoholic is going to be brewing a keg every couple days for self consumption.
The goal isn't abstract - read it as - goal of "not being a wage-slave" and have a shot at being more. It's an ambition type of thing.
Of course some people win the lottery, but playing the lottery isn’t a sound strategy for a good life.
In other words, there are a lot of people "playing startup" in the valley - some of the VC money flows too easily and there is always going to be an ecosystem of people to try to put it to work.
But how do you apply that to start up San Francisco.
Sell brewing consumables? Orgy stuff? Wood tables?
People dumping discounted equity to hyper-scale on debt is not a business, but just another IPO over-valuation scheme. =3
Nothing else even comes to close to these attributes in having a comfortable sucessful life. introverts and cynics get crushed.
If you do that, you're almost guaranteed to stay in the top 2% globally for the rest of your life. You've made it in life, at least financially.
The approach of not taking advantage of the lucky and privileged situation exposes you to a huge risk that your NW will go down to zero and you never get a second chance.
Whatever happens, perhaps AI replacing all cognitive work, you know you'll be fine. Maybe not able to live lavishly, but much better than needing to have a job you hate in order to survive.
You've hit the escape velocity. Worst case scenario (I'm simplifying) is that your NW stagnates, best case scenario is that your NW will continue to grow quickly. That's much better than the worst case scenario being that your unemployed with a zero NW.
As a human, your needs are simple[1]. With a $1M net worth, you can relocate somewhere to live very cheaply. And your dependents can live in that same place, also cheaply.
All you need to do is show the Joneses the door out of your mind and never let them back in, nor look toward their lives in envy.
[1]: Healthcare being a notable potential exception, depending on the individual.
To me this is the most critical problem with the "move somewhere crazy cheap" plan. I feel a parent owes their children at least somewhat similar opportunities as they themselves had. If you got to work as "high flying white collar tech worker", but the only option your children have is "subsistence fisherman", you have wronged them.
Even if your goal is financial independence, it's reasonable to not drastically decrease your existing standard of living just so you can retire _now_.
A toy model game is poker. If opponents know you'll never call an all-in/go all-in, they will always outplay you on the river.
And so, let the market pump funny numbers, and matriculate the lucky survivors.
What means do you see? Buy some S&P500 ETF and live off the interest rate? That seams easy but without investing in AI, you’re at risk of AI making the existing economy irrelevant, it’s the same as having all investments in local craftsmanship in 1700 and the steam machine happens, except much faster.
And move to [insert home country]? (What if I want to keep my friends)
What’s your idea of investing in AI?
Startups are taking longer and longer to reach public markets, so more and more value creation requires you to be a family office, angel, or hedge fund.
- would this have been possible if Jim was not charismatic like the way the author described including being white, tall and being part of that fraternity.
> He approached me because he was really into startups and wanted to become a tech entrepreneur, and make the big bucks
It's a shame that so much of tech culture has become about money. Money was always a part of it, but living in the Bay in 2010, there was more of a focus on building things. But once people started getting rich, especially off bitcoin, it brought in a whole host of people whose primary passion seemed to be money. We moved out in 2018. Still bums me out, SF was my favorite city, and I hoped to live there for a long time, but the values weren't my values anymore.
This is funny to read because I remember hearing someone complain about the exact same thing in the Bay Area, but their dates were shifted by about 10 years before yours.
I think it's kind of like Burning Man, where everyone's favorite experience was their early days when they were young. As you get older, you complain it's gone downhill and the new generation is going for all the wrong reasons.
SF and the Bay Area are constantly shuffling through and recombining ideas. What generated money relatively easily in 2010 would've started becoming low value in 2018, rapidly approaching an asymptote of relative uselessness today. 2018 is about the point where you needed to be pivoting to AI if you really wanted to remain part of the city's "upper class", where money feels like it doesn't matter because it's abundant and automatic. 2010 was the era of mobile apps.
Makes me wonder how long we have before, "create your own ChatGPT" becomes the next big thing and people wonder why their "AI Labs" aren't making as much as the big boys.
There are gazillions of candy crush remakes, but Royal Match, launched in 2021, still made it to the top in revenue. It was not thanks to some existing monopolist pushing it, but thanks to a) ginormous marketing budget and b) relentless execution and experience of making mobile games before, i.e. you know what works, what doesn't, how to extract maximum amount of revenue, etc.
https://naavik.co/digest/royal-match-finding-success-through...
https://naavik.co/digest/why-dream-games-success-is-a-challe...
Er... so you don't need to be a monopolist, just have a massive amount of existing capital and deep understanding of the field?
And then they get into mental contortions as to why getting 2x or 3x better in an absolute sense doesn’t budge the needle much.
The issue is that simple and novel can also be copied easily (anyone can just point an LLM at the target and ask it to build a local personal version). The days of making money from this class of app are over.
Novel and very complex ideas will still make money, but outside of gaming are usually niche markets.
Novel and moderately complex apps will have to build their own moats to prevent copying - heavy server side rendering, server logic processing, and an idea that can't be re-implemented on simple CRUD architecture.
We're already there. It seems like every intern I see has built a custom chatbot with a RAG pipeline integrated into an internal application.
And every legacy SaaS is paying millions in consulting to add the same to their app.
Another perspective is just that SF's culture has been declining for decades. As someone born in SF, I'd agree.
[1] https://press.stripe.com/the-making-of-prince-of-persia
And when it comes to culture as festivals they are very much victims of getting hallowed out and sucked dry.
In reality, you could probably put any date in there and it would work.
Let’s keep it in perspective.
Is having a couple of pets and a ridiculous table lifestyle creep. Maybe. I think of lifestyle creep more in terms of you are not saving any money at all.
I think that comment is more telling of what is expected of founders and engineers. At least from authors point of view.
No life allowed. Definitely don't reproduce. You work, and work so you can work more.
> The establishment scions pouring into tech take on the trappings of subversion, while remaining fundamentally conformist. Meanwhile, rampant success inevitably causes the former tech counterculture to morph into posturing “Prada revolutionaries,”
Unfortunately the article ends on praising crypto and surveillance, so this has been going on for a while
One example of this is the current AI companies. Irrespective of how much marketing / hype that exists today, the long term question remains the same. Can they build a sustainable business ?
some opportunities allow people reveal parts of themselves or things they always wanted
It's also a bit of "I like you because you're like me" thing plus some "it's useful to me that you're like that".
I've seen plenty of startups where the CEO/CTO has been trained to fit under one specific stereotype (common ones these days are: the asian twink, the athlete, the nootropics guy, etc.), and then lots of their friends/hires happen to be of the same or adjacent/compatible stereotypes.
In so many European countries, unless you happen to have bootstrapped your way into success, you'll be written off as a bozo if you don't have all the correct credentials.
Someone like Jim (read: No formal relevant education, no industry experience, only hopes and dreams) would in the very, very, VERY best case get a €100k funding - and that is only if they had other more attractive looking co-founders with them.
I mean, it is something everyone knows - but the sheer risk averseness you often see here in Europe is really something.
There are lots of earnest, sincere, and interesting founders. There are also lots who probably would've been happier on Wall Street.
This is a bigger problem in Silicon Valley right now than anyone seems ready to acknowledge.
Nothing wrong with that per se, I basically did that in grad school. It’s completely different than actually grinding 100 hours a week though. Also tough to be a part of if you have a life or family outside work.
1. https://www.fda.gov/drugs/drug-safety-communications/fda-upd...
Go back to early 2000's post dot com bubble.
The whole of the bay ran on Adderall and Ambien + what ever else one could get their hands on. It was so pervasive that even a decade later you could find Adderall references in Bay Area hip hop.
Almost 30 years on, and this still has not really changed.
Drug fueled founder parties? Orgies? I've clearly been doing silicon valley wrong. Or right, depending on your perspective... but not this? I've seen board game fueled parties where maybe one or two people do drugs, but it remains very nerdy? And no sex parties. Mostly sausage parties?
... so yeah. Do people really know Jims? Because I just read posts about them.
The startup market rewards first to market and first to scale. This creates a game of "chicken", where the competitors spend like crazy trying to achieve a near monopoly. That's why some of the fake-it-til-you-make-it crowd gets ahead. But most of them crash. The historical success rate for VC-funded startups is only about 1 in 10.
Actually the one drugs + stripper party I was invited to was so damn sad and pathetic I left after a few minutes. A bunch of geeks who got rich, using money to do an impersonation of the crazy lifestyle reality TV taught them they were supposed to be having.
I left the party and went back to playing board games in another wing of the hotel.
Clearly you weren't cool enough to get into the drug-fuelled OpenAI gay sex orgies.
What?! Source?
More prison gay than anything else. I'd go down on a man for a million dollar OpenAI offer even though I'm into women. I don't think commenters here realize how desperate people can become for money.
The journalist is trying hard to tie it all back to OpenAI, but the original Tweet only mentions OpenAI as an eventual destination for some of the people involved in what she witnessed.
The shared "hacker house" scene in SF is really weird, though. Especially the more you get into EA/rationalist circles. There were groups that were basically cults emerging out of some of them.
The startup incubator in Silicon Valley, the tv series, was good comedy.
This seems like a pretty dubious conclusion to make from the outside. There are a lot of reasons somebody would get fired after an acquisition. Hell, even if he was coasting, an acquisition followed by a rapid change in environment and culture can cause somebody to lose motivation for a wide range of reasons. Blaming this on "lifetstyle creep" is rather premature and, frankly, pretty judgemental or moralistic.
This is downstream of a pretty frustrating belief I've seen repeatedly in the tech industry: that whether a person is "motivated" or "hard working" is some kind of inherent quasi-moral characteristic of the person, rather than something substantially affected by environment. But hey, it's much easier to blame individuals and lean on the perf review process than it is to change organizational culture or leadership!
Author has discovered that his 'working hard' to be at the bottom of the in-between layer pales in comparison to the invites others receive for simply showing up.
That's how it goes.
The real bitch is when you get to spend some time with the hot folks or the nepo babies and realize there's no substance - all they have is a mastery of surface level pleasantries and an incredibly thin skin.
John W. Spiegel: A prominent business litigation and securities lawyer who graduated from Yale University and worked as a partner at the law firm Munger, Tolles & Olson.